Lectures about self-growth and evolvement:

1. Who am I?- How to understand my personality better

Our personality is made up of different parts. Some of these are resourceful and some can sabotage our growth.

Understanding the parts of your personality and each of their functions will empower you to amplify the desirable parts and shrink the maladaptive parts. Examples of resourceful parts are: your inner strength, your inner wisdom, your nurturer part, your friendly part… Examples of maladaptive parts are: instant gratification, the depressed part, the anxious part, the critical voice part, the peoples’ pleaser part, the insecure part, the perfectionist part, the OCD part… Participants leave this session with practical tools on how to strengthen their own and their significant others’ resourceful parts.

The session is followed (time permitting) by an optional hypnosis session for inner strength building (the entire audience is put into a hypnotic state together and they are welcome to record me. Since this is not “stage hypnosis”, but rather “medical hypnosis”, no one loses control!).

(3-hour lecture)

2. How to externalise stressors and traumas that are stuck in the cells of the body

This lecture is especially experiential and memorable with full audience participation. It is divided into two parts:

Part One: In this part of the lecture, I prove that cellular memory of events does exist. These memories affect us on a physiological and emotional level. I tell miraculous stories of people who have used this method and how they have rid themselves of tics and other physiological and emotional problems relatively quickly. I further explain how this cellular imprint takes place and how to let go of the unwanted cellular memories so that one can feel free and heal.

(1-hour lecture)​

Part Two: A-step-by step practical guide and exercises that assist in freeing the body and calming down the nervous system. Participants are also equipped with tools on what to do in moments when they feel out of emotional balance. This session makes use of the brain stem as well as the body to achieve self-regulation. After this lecture, participants reported how the exercises freed them from long standing distress.

(2-hour lecture/workshop).

3. Positive and negative self-talk and mistaken beliefs

This lecture deals with one’s internal communication and it is divided into four parts:​

Part One: In this lecture, I focus on three parts of the personality that cause negative self-talk and as a result, throw one out of emotional balance. Participants learn to recognise their voices, as well as how to “answer them back” and how to minimise their power. This session involves role modelling, interesting media and exercise.

(1 ½ hour lecture/workshop)​

Part Two: Each participant receives a questionnaire that detects mistaken beliefs which may exist in her subconscious and which cause insecurities and anxieties. This serves as an eye-opening exercise. Thereafter, participants score their questionnaire and learn useful, corresponding affirmations which aim at correcting the problematic beliefs.

(1-hour workshop)​

Part Three: An amazing hypnosis session (optional), which reinforces the externalisation of negative, non-congruent messages about ourselves that come from our environment.

(1/2 hour)

​Part Four: An optional and very enjoyable creative activity which reinforces all the new messages and the learning acquired in the workshop

(1/2 hour)

4. Social skills: How to be assertive as opposed to being aggressive or a people pleaser

Assertiveness is a much-needed social skill, which facilitates the ability to ask for what you need, to express what you feel and to refuse a request when necessary, without hurting people’s feelings. This is a common social skill that people seem to struggle with. When people need something from another person, or at a time of conflict, they often assume the role of the “aggressive part” or the “people-pleaser’s part”. This session together with interesting media, role-play and exercise, aim at strengthening one’s assertive part, which serves as the right approach in most cases.

(2-hours lecture/workshop)

5. “Inner peace in the modern world” – “how to achieve inner peace at times when people without anxiety/depression are the exception” The holistic approach

This lecture contains 18 steps which facilitate a fuller, happier, more balanced life, with lower levels of stress and reduced negative emotions. This lecture serves as a practical guide on how one can help oneself or one’s child to either stay in an emotionally balanced state or get out of depression or anxiety.

The session is followed by an optional hypnosis session for relaxation and for achieving inner-peace.

(1 ½ -hour lecture/workshop)

6. The 6 steps for an immediate release of anger, stress, fear or frustration

Situations of anger, stress, worry or frustration, present a challenge when one needs to deal with others in a respectful and patient manner. This lecture will equip the participant with a “tool box” of six useful techniques, that bring about immediate emotional and physical balance. People particularly love the anger releasing techniques. They find that this release brings them substantial healing. This lecture is based on techniques such as the EFT tapping technique, somatic experiencing, breathing techniques and other practical exercises which enable the person to regain balance in a short space of time.

(2-hour workshop)

7. Self-hypnosis

Hypnosis is a therapeutic technique which enables the person, through deep relaxation, to connect with her internal world, and to seed important messages into the subconscious. In hypnosis, one can work on challenges such as weight loss, nightmares, self-esteem and more. During this session, I teach participants how to get themselves into a ‘relaxation state’ and how to send needed messages to the sub-conscious.

(1-hour workshop)

8. Counselling skills

How to be a good listener. How to contain the people who share their emotional experiences with us. How to respond correctly when people need emotional support, without dismissing their feelings, preaching, rescuing, questioning, pitying, or giving the wrong advice in the wrong manner. Practical and enriching.

(3-hour workshop)

Dealing with children and teens:

1. How do I connect to my child’s emotions?

This lecture deals with healthy communication between parents and children/adolescents. This lecture is informative and practical, taking parents through typical ‘incorrect responses’ to children’s sharing of emotions or complaints. The aim of the lecture is to equip the parent with a more useful response, one which is therapeutic for the child. This will encourage the child to share more with the parent in the future and it facilitates more cooperation from the child. The parent will learn how to be the child’s ‘coach’. In this lecture, I teach the basic structure of the correct response. This session includes role-play. Participants leave this lecture feeling hopeful, filled with tools for a new and improved relationship with their children and teenagers.

(3-hour workshop).

2. How to encourage children’s cooperation without resorting to shouting and hitting

This session focuses on the concepts and practical ideas of positive reinforcement, boundaries and assertiveness as opposed to corporal punishment, shouting and other forms of punishment. When approaching children correctly, they learn to be more responsible, and to accept boundaries. However, raising children through negativity, may turn the parent into the “enemy”, as well as creating in the child feelings of anger and a need for revenge. This lecture includes role play.

(1-hour lecture/workshop)

3. How to use art as a tool in strengthening self-esteem in children (for moms, teachers and therapists)

Using art in therapy is a powerful tool as it makes use of our limbic system (the feeling brain) where the subconscious resides. Art serves as a quick entry to painful places. Art can can assist in bringing healing to our negative beliefs about ourselves, to our negative emotions and to self-sabotaging behaviour. This is a practical workshop with many demonstrations, as well as (time permitting) allowing participants to create some of the art themselves.

(1-2-hour workshop)

4. How grandmothers can be supportive and help their grandchildren build their self-esteem

Grannies can be a real asset in their grandchildren’s’ lives! I’ve had so many clients where the only person who has been supportive of them was their gran. This session is a practical session, teaching grans how to be good listeners, how to contain the grandchildren, what to do with them when taking them out and what activities to do with the grandchildren indoors in such a way that the child’s self-esteem is strengthened.

(4-hour workshop)

Lecture Testimonials

Dr Blumenau’s somatic experiencing workshops were excellent. I gained a new understanding of how trauma affects the entirety of our body as well as our mind. Her teaching and training are clear and well crafted.

Bayle Haber

In the treatment process of the SAIL model with Dr. Dvori, we worked on healing my inner child. I realized that many times I react the way my inner child is used to reacting, and not like the woman I am becoming. I recognized the feelings of my inner child and began to live with them in peace instead of repressing them, and today I am in a place where I notice whether I am reacting from a place of fear (inner child) or from a place of faith in myself (woman). Dvori helped me make the separation and understand how I want to conduct myself in the world. Together we practiced different responses to situations that repeated themselves in my life and triggered a familiar inner child response. I began to respond to those situations from a place of faith rather than fear, and my life changed.

My name is Sheva Messias, I used to be the principal of “Yidish Folk”. I asked Dvori to give a workshop to my teachers about how they could use art in a therapeutic way with the children. Dvori gave us the most interesting, informative, practical and hands-on workshop. Everything was demonstrated in a three dimensional fashion. The process was explained clearly.  Dvori is a passionate and enthusiastic speaker. It takes a lot to impress my staff and they were very impressed and learned so much from her. They asked for her to come back and give another lecture. I have asked Devori to come and do a workshop for my King David teachers too”. Sheva Messias – Principal, King David Nursery School Principal, King David Nursery School Feedback from workshop for teachers titled “Using art as a therapeutic tool at schools” given to teachers at Yidish Folk Nursery School

Thank you so much for the workshop you gave our teachers. You reminded us how important it is to always acknowledge a child's feelings and to show empathy before we can intervene to teach or console.  By role playing, this lesson was deeply ingrained in us. The teachers enjoyed the course and learned a lot from it Dvori. Kind regards Principal, Hirsch Lyons Nursery School Feedback from workshop for teachers titled: “Helping learners deal with their feelings” given at Hirsch Lyons nursery and primary schools

Cheryl Ziegler

“Thank you so much for your fascinating presentation to our group last night. Your time, wealth of information and the knowledge you imparted was so much appreciated.  I'm a founder of a group of about just over 5 000 (and subset of over 550) online Bipolar members whom I believe would greatly benefit from your methodology and approach to life’s challenges.”

Marion Pipkin

Dvori Blumenau’s presentation on ego-state therapy kept members of our support group spellbound. By using props like a life-size cardboard man, play dough and a hands-on demonstration with a willing volunteer, she enabled the attendees to internalise a very powerful technique that they could subsequently use to tackle their own problems. Dvori is articulate, passionate, warm and extremely empathic. I would highly recommend her as both a speaker and psychotherapist”. Feedback from lecture titled “Achieving impulse control, through conscious and sub- conscious (=hypnosis) ego-state (sub-personalities) work” given to the Joburg Bipolar Support Group

Dvori came to speak to the ladies in our shul, her warmth and expertise totaly captivated her audience, they even asked for a follow-up”.  Rebitzen Leah Uzvalk Feedback from lecture titled “self awareness as a tool for self evolvement, followed by an optional hypnosis session for inner strength building”. Give to the ladies of the Victory Park synagogue.

Dear Dvori, Thank you for taking your precious Sunday to give of your time and knowledge to share with my single moms group. The members were enthralled and came away with enthusiasm and positivity. You indeed made a great impact on the ladies…it really had an impact on each member. We look forward to hearing you again so please indicate if you would be willing to do so and if so when. Feedback from lecture titled “Helping children deal with their feelings” given at the Chevrah Kadisha

Zoe Paula Cohen

Dvori Blumenaus has beautifully crafted and delivered a captivating, elevating, and overly uplifting series of lectures in our community. We are grateful for her invaluable input and the insights she had shared. The topics were remarkably pinpointed to our target crowd and left us all wanting for more. For a few days after the opening lecture I, Tirtza, the head of the community,  kept getting phone calls from the participants, telling me how much they thoroughly enjoyed Dvori’s opening lecture and that they have never heard a lecture on this clabber! They were so inspired! Sending out greatest of thanks and wishes, Feedback from lectures I delivered at the Sefaradi community in Cape Town

Tirtza Benchlouch, Cape Town
Dear Dvori, The first and second times I heard you speak at Ohr Somayach Cape Town I was blown away. I walked away with so many insightful concepts and new outlooks to incorporate into my own life and the way I brought up my kids. It was a true Honor to have you speak in our sukkah at home and the many woman who came to listen to you left so inspired by your words of wisdom. I look forward to hosting you again to speak in our home !! Each time we speak I always feel so revitalized, you are a true breath of fresh air! I wanted to thank you again for speaking to the kids at Ohr Somayach about " Emotional self protection", I know it has helped my kids as well as many of the other kids that participated, tremendously. They loved the way you spoke

Belinda Lazarus
Dear Dvori  Blumenau, I want to thank you for coming to Durban and for giving such an excellent lecture in my home to the ladies in Durban. Your lecture titled; “Self-awareness as a tool for self-evolvement, and to assist us to lead a more meaningful and functional life”, was excellent and very interesting and every single lady that attended the lecture kept saying how much they had learnt from you and that your lecture will help them in their lives!! Everyone felt that everything that you had taught them helped them to understand themselves and others better and helped them to grow. Your knowledge is incredible, and you present everything is such an interesting and sometimes humorous way which everyone enjoyed. We all learned a lot from you. Thank you! I was asked by everyone who attended the shiur to please have you back for lectures in my home. And

Cheryl Unterslak